Monday, January 07, 2008

.....dang.

Well heres one for ya:

I had a baby that I gave up for adoption back in 1979.

My daughter just called me all freaking out....apparently, in Googling my maiden name, she discovered that he's trying to contact me.

27 comments:

  1. oh my God, will wait for your next post before leaving proper comment as this is a deeply personal thing. Wow.

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  2. Ratso: I just hope to God it isnt some kind of a scam. And that he had a good life. And that he isnt all angry at me. And that he doesn't ask me about his bio dad, because...yeah. hm. trippin, huh?

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  3. in terms of asking about his bio dad, remember there is a difference in being technically honest as opposed to overly candid. And keeping anger out of it. So bring up the good stuff, stick to the basics, and make sure to throw in a lot of "stupid kid" excuses, seriously. You can't judge someone now on themselves almost thirty years ago.
    He will appreciate diplomacy, even if he doesn't know that's what it is, believe me.

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  4. hendrix4:58 PM

    With Frobisher on this one but some immediate advice would be to take a deep breath, have a big drink, a big cry and listen to the SSA, she's talking sense. Hang in there. hx

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  5. Big can of worms there - you going to go for it?

    The son I gave up for adoption just turned 18 in November - but he won't be able to register for the adoption registry match program till he is 25 - it was a closed adoption and there is little chance that he would know my name at this point.

    I still haven't told 2 of my 3 kids yet. Eeesh.

    pssst. yes, I'm real.

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  6. SSA: you are the person i was going to ask since I did such a stellar job of it the last time I had to explain my past indiscretions! i love you chickenbutt.

    hendrix: it's still kind of academic at this point. I replied to the guys email address this afternoon and so far...nothing. we shall see. thanks, my darling!

    saintswife: welcome welcome! theres a subject you need to talk to my daughter about..she's the OREAD THE SSA link above there. she can tell you about it from the daughters point of view. me, I'm still trippin. (nice needlework, btw!)

    mj: *slappitybiffityslappitybiffityslappity
    biffityslappitybiffitywhap whap whap* WAKE UP!*waves open bottle of bushmills beneath mj's nose* come on! *slappitybiffityslappity*

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  7. Whuh? Huh? Dang! I'll take a sip on this leftover eggnog that smells kinda funny on this one.

    *faints*

    *lands on top of MJ*

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  8. aw, goddamnit ma, don't tell people my hideously embarrassing pet names. ferchissakes lady.
    I am cool with talking to whomever wants to know whatever. I may be full of crap but I think I am reasonably rational. Sometimes.
    Oh and neato! LJ people can comment on blogger, that is teh tits.

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  9. You have the most interesting life, hope he is rich and can help you out. Maybe he is famous and wants to set you up for life. Let me know if he buys you guys a new Harley.

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  10. too bad it's a boy. when i saw the date my first thought was "she IS my real mom after all!" never mind.

    ssa: that's nothing. my dad's pet name for me is Fartblossom. feel better now?


    good luck, all. xoxoxox

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  11. Oh lordy , I am with Frobi on this one......but HOW EXCITING

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  12. *revived by Bushmills*

    I wonder if he has a blog.

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  13. Oh, mj's awake, I thought I'd join Awa in the 'fall on top of MJ game.
    As for the kid, wow, found by your daughter too.
    Good luck.

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  14. Contary to popular opinion, I am NOT a mattress.

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  15. *****bounces up and down on MJ ****

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  16. Hell! That's a biggie! Nothing much seems appropriate other than 'good luck'. Fingers are crossed here.

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  17. Beast, you could at least remove your footie boots.

    The cleats are killing me.

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  18. I seem to be a lot of people's mommy, don't I? just say no to drugs, kids.

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  19. dorian: so that means i cant say 'picklepie' either?

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  20. I've a horrible feeling that my 'indescretion' 17 1/2 years ago in Newcastle is probably a ma too now.. at 38 being a Gramps is really too much to contemplate.
    I sometimes think if she did look for me she'd regret it when she finds out what a bag of nurosis / eccentricity I am.

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  21. goddamn you! and do not say my meatworld name woman!!! this is not jerry springer!

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  22. You're welcome to what little I know about such things, which is slowly works best.

    Good luck.

    Of course the big question he's going to want to know is why?

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  23. dorian 'bull moose tucker' van damme:
    what meat world name?

    OOOOPS

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  24. EVERYBODY:
    thank you for your words. I am so utterly gobsmacked by all this i cannot tell you. there will be an update but for now i'm just letting it all roll over me. DAYUM.

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  25. i wish you all the strength you need to get through this which ever way you choose to go...

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